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my mum recently got a new boyfriend after quite a long time. She told me out of the blue but I am happy for her.
It was a little weird at first (not gonna lie) but we get along very well now.
I'm doing this post because there are a few of you out there whose parents have new partners and don't really on what to do now.
First of all, you need to remember that your parents deserve to be happy and be together with someone who makes them happy. And second, of all, you need to remember that they don't want to replace your mum or dad.
But if there is anything that is bothering you about your mums or dads new partner you need to tell them so you can work it out and be as happy as possible.
As I already mentioned my mum hasn't had a boyfriend in a long time and I just got used to it. The moment she told me, I was very surprised but I was happy for her and I know that she deserves someone you will make her happy.
It was hard to get know him because my mum doesn't live close by because of her work so the first time meeting him was a bit uncomfortable. For me it's hard to do the first step so, I was quite anxious. I worried a little and that's totally normal to be nervous you just need to remember that nothing bad is going to happen.
It will take some time before you get to know each other.
I think the easiest way to get to know each other is having a coffee together and start with some small talk. Find things you both like but don't force yourself to anything.
Now that you got to know your parent's new partner and you get along it might be the time for you to meet their kids (if they have some). In my case, they are older than me and already have their own family. I haven't met them yet but I'll probably meet them soon.
I think you'll need to find same interests or hobbies as well. Depending on the age difference it can be harder or easier. Maybe you don't have any similarities but don't worry the more you spent time together the better you get along. Everything takes time.
Please remember I'm not an expert and these are the things I experienced. It may differ from case to case.
I hope some of the things are helpful
Love, Steff xx
But if there is anything that is bothering you about your mums or dads new partner you need to tell them so you can work it out and be as happy as possible.
As I already mentioned my mum hasn't had a boyfriend in a long time and I just got used to it. The moment she told me, I was very surprised but I was happy for her and I know that she deserves someone you will make her happy.
It was hard to get know him because my mum doesn't live close by because of her work so the first time meeting him was a bit uncomfortable. For me it's hard to do the first step so, I was quite anxious. I worried a little and that's totally normal to be nervous you just need to remember that nothing bad is going to happen.
It will take some time before you get to know each other.
I think the easiest way to get to know each other is having a coffee together and start with some small talk. Find things you both like but don't force yourself to anything.
Now that you got to know your parent's new partner and you get along it might be the time for you to meet their kids (if they have some). In my case, they are older than me and already have their own family. I haven't met them yet but I'll probably meet them soon.
I think you'll need to find same interests or hobbies as well. Depending on the age difference it can be harder or easier. Maybe you don't have any similarities but don't worry the more you spent time together the better you get along. Everything takes time.
Please remember I'm not an expert and these are the things I experienced. It may differ from case to case.
I hope some of the things are helpful
Love, Steff xx
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